for a little bit, i've been wondering why the media is pushing this "black women will never find men" agenda, and though i've seen several plausible explanations, nothing quite felt right, then, all of a sudden it hit me. Black women live on faith. we carry it with us like armor. Faith is the confident belief or trust in the truth or trustworthiness of a person, concept or thing. We instill this in our children when we tell them that we believe they can rise above their current environment, and teach them to be the best they can be, we have faith that they will succeed. For those women that find themselves single, there is also the faith that they will ultimately find someone to share their life with, and that all they have to do is turn the right corner, go to the right church or supermarket, or even (god forbid) show up at the right club, and he'll be there, waiting to sweep you off your feet. Not saying that this way of thinking is completely productive, clearly one must do some self work before they can attract a proper mate, but for many, this is one of the things that keeps them going and taking the necessary steps to living a life that they feel will prepare them for this proper mate, but if this belief is crushed by statistical "facts and figures", what is there to hold onto, if the numbers are telling me i'm destined for loneliness.
Self images of black men have been destroyed by media's disproportionate projections of them committing crimes, being womanizers and not able to provide for their families, not to mention the whole thing with black men actors having to wear dresses. The images of black women have been destroyed by the over sexualization we see in videos, the "welfare queen" seen on every news station, and the nanny character that we've played forever. So there is already a situation where men and women look at each other with apprehension and disdain, based on what is pumped into their minds on a daily basis, but black women have always been willing to look for that silver lining in the brothers that have shared their external struggles. Now, media is telling you on a repeated basis to give up, there's nothing there for you.
So let's do the math. To create a family, you need a man and a woman to produce a child. If you first remove the man, an existing child may grow, but that father figure is missing and imbalance can show itself because of that lack, but a woman will raise her child with the thought in the back of her mind, that one day there will be someone to there offer support. If you now take the mother and tell her no, there will be no one there, the thought she's held onto is now crushed, and the focus goes from "one day my prince will come", to "there's never been a prince for me, so to heck with it all", which then becomes a self fulfilling prophecy that is also passed to her child. We've already established, that both a man and woman are needed to produce a child, but if you have now effectively removed the two from each other's line of sight, then the union necessary for the foundation of a family to occur, is no longer possible.
don't let them win
